25-year-old discovers her entire friend group knew her boyfriend was cheating on her: 'I can't look at them the same way'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Feb 25, 2025 8:00 AM EST

It's remarkable what friends will keep from one another. Obviously, not everyone is confident enough to confront even their closest allies about their concerns, but at a certain point, friends are responsible for stepping in, even when it's uncomfortable to do so.

This can manifest itself in a variety of tense interactions. Perhaps you need to tell your friend that you think they are making the wrong decision by dating a messed-up person or that they're repeating the same mistakes. Perhaps you're worried about their well=being and how they take care of themselves (or, even more commonly, how they don't). Here, we have a story of a friend group torn apart by knowledge about one person's infidelity.

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  • This 25-year-old had a close friend group that included her long-term boyfriend. However, when she suspected him of cheating due to an unfortunate message she received from a total stranger, he confessed. But it gets worse. Apparently, everyone knew, and no one considered saying a darn thing to her about her “man's” indiscretions.

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    I (25F) just got out of a four-year relationship after finding out my boyfriend had been cheating on me for months. The worst part? Almost all of my closest friends knew-and no one told me.
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    We've all been part of the same friend group since college, hanging out every weekend, taking trips together, and supporting each other through everything. Or so I thought.
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    A few weeks ago, I got a message from a girl I didn't know. She told me she had been seeing my boyfriend and just found out he was in a relationship. At first, I
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    thought she was lying or mistaken, but she sent screenshots texts, photos, even a video of them together. I felt like my whole world shattered.
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    When I confronted my boyfriend, he admitted everything. He had been cheating for nearly a year, and my friends knew. They saw him flirting at parties, caught him sneaking off with her, and even overheard conversations about it.
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    When I asked them why they didn't tell me, they gave me excuses "It wasn't our place," "We didn't want to be involved," "We thought you might already know."
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    I was devastated. These were the people I trusted the most, and they let me be blindsided. I cut off my ex immediately, but my friends? That's been harder.
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    Some have apologized, saying they feel awful, while others are acting like I'm overreacting. They keep inviting me to things, expecting everything to go back to normal, but I can't look at them the same way.
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    Now, they're saying I'm being unfair by holding this against them, that I shouldn't "throw away years of friendship" over this. They knew. They saw. And
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    they chose to stay silent while I was being lied to. Now, they expect me to just move on like nothing happened. But how can I ever trust them again? AITA?
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  • Several members gave their feedback, insisting that the woman should stop blaming herself for having trouble trusting her so-called friends. Many encouraged her to cut them off entirely or to, at the very least, consider the ways in which they might be able to regain her trust.

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    Me... Are you sure they're your friends? Because they wouldn't be mine...
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    Logical_Challenge... NTA. They did automatically "throw out years of friendship" as soon as they decided to stay silent. Because true friends would never do this. So, it leads to conclusion that they were acquaintances at most.
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    BoxBeast1961_. They're not your friends. They threw you away with their betrayal.
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    TapSoft7074 Ironic isn't it? How a complete stranger turned out to be friendlier than your own friends? It takes courage to tell the truth after you find out you're the mistress without knowing it, if I were you I would have thanked that girl....
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    On the other hand I wouldn't forgive those who call themselves your "friends" either, a real friend doesn't hide something that important.
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    BusyLecture5733. These people aren't your friends, please cut them off. So sorry you're going through all this betrayal at once, sending you so much love!
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    SnoopyisCute Nope. My former in-laws introduced then-spouse to affair partner and my family helped then-estranged- spouse kidnap our children to get them out of state,
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    destroy my property and leave me homeless. All of them follow each other but I didn't use social media so EVERYBODY knew and none of them warned me. I will never forgive my family and I agree you should not forgive your so-called "friends".
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